Where is Our Mommy? Mother Vanishes: Melissa McVay Darling

By Diana May-Waldman

 Sulfur Springs Texas- Melissa McVay Darling went missing on June 9,2001 and some people don’t think she is worth finding. Some think she is a societal throw away and that bothers me.

While the Internet has become am extremely valuable tool to aid in the awareness of the missing, it has become a double edged sword when people can post anonymous comments and opinions about the missing.

Some of the comments suggest that the missing mother of two children isn’t worth looking for, because she had an alleged drug problem. That muddies the water and veers people away from what is important. Melissa McVay Darling is missing and is nowhere to be found.

Who decides who is worth looking for and who isn’t? Doesn’t every missing person deserve to be found? And isn’t every missing person somebodies loved one? What gives anyone the right to place value on another person?

I have taught my own children not to judge others, because we never really know what another carries in their heart.

Whether Melissa had a drug problem or not, it is not for me to say–but I will say that regardless of her lifestyle choices, she is one of our sisters and deserves to be found. To those making the negative comments, shut the hell up and put your energy into something positive. Shame on you for taking a bad situation and making it worse. Shame on your for hindering an investigation of a missing woman that can’t be found or speak for herself right now.

Here is a comment from the Topix forum: “What is annoying is that the family knows shes a worthless crack head and they are dragging the public into this “search”. Don’t waste our time…it’s obvious how few people showed up to the stupid prayer vigil last week because everyone else knows shes a loser out partying.”

Her family has reported her missing. And what if she is NOT out partying? What if she is lying dead somewhere, after being beaten and raped? I would hope that is not the case, but what if? That same kind of comment is right up there with saying that because a woman dressed a certain way she was asking to be assaulted.

SHUT YOUR IGNORANT BACK STABBING ASS UP. It is this EXACT mentality that keeps people in narrow columns of worthy and unworthy. It is this exact kind of comment that keeps women down, instead of picking them up.

So with that said, let’s get down to business and stick to the FACTS and find this mother.

Melissa McVay Darling is missing and her family and friends want answers. She was last seen in her hometown, of Sulphur Springs, Texas, when she dropped her daughters off at her father’s house on June 9, 2011.

Police have stated that they have video tape from the Choctaw Casino early the next morning of Melissa. The tape reveals that she was accompanied with a man by the name of Jeremy Blake Upchurch. He is now listed as a person of interest.

Melissa’s truck was found near Hugo Lake in Oklahoma. It was locked and had two flat tires.

Name: Melissa Ann Darling
AKA: Melissa Ann Mcvay
Case Number: M1106008
Case Type: Other
Last Seen in: Grant, OK (Choctaw County)
Last Seen on: 6/10/2011
Height: 5′ 8 ” Weight: 190 lbs.
Date of Birth: 6/16/1977 Age Missing: 34
Eye Color: Green Hair Color: Blonde
Race: White Sex: Female
State Missing From: Texas
Country Missing From: USA

Last seen wearing watch on left wrist. Has a tattoo of a dolphin on her back and a scar on her abdomen. Hangs out at the Choctaw Casino/Resort in Oklahoma.

Anyone with information about Melissa McVay Darling or where she might be is urged to contact Sulphur Springs Police Department, 903-885-7602, or the nearest law enforcement agency.

WEBSITE: http://bringmelissahome.com/
Texas Missing Persons Clearinghouse Online Bulletin
http://www.txdps.state.tx.us/
Case #M1106008

Diana May-Waldman- Bureau Editor for Worldwide Hippies in Rochester NY. Diana is the author of A Woman’s Song. Her poetry in this book deals with the struggles facing all women and the many facets of being a woman in the world today. She is a strong women’s and children’s advocate. A true example of the Hippie movements continuing growth and sprit. Diana’s activism is an inspiration to many.http://www.facebook.com/profile