by Donna R. Gore
This is one of those fitful nights in which sleep won’t come for Ladyjustice. So much is happening in her world right now, (in A Good way) that her mind is like chocolate marshmallow swirl!!
A recent Facebook post is weighing on her mind… “Am I Pretty” concerning prepubescent girls worrying so about their looks that they feel compelled to solicit strangers comments over the internet! The sad truth is… they were all very cute! Such a pity that they have such low self-esteem at such a young age and that their value systems are all screwed up!
This topic relates to the true value of life and friendship, LOOKS ASIDE. Several weeks ago, this writer wrote with enthusiasm about the prospect of meeting her REAL PEOPLE for the very first time after months and months of hard, intense and fun… work…. Not having the opportunity to meet through geographic distance and not having any idea what a couple of these people look like. … NOT THAT IT MATTERS… and that’s exactly the point!
When you have mutual goals, when you are thrown together for a purpose and its sink or swim tied to your efforts, you develop trust and appreciate the other person. It matters not in the least what they look like. In fact, you laugh at your flaws and theirs may become endearments. You know the person by e-mail, text, or phone, but you don’t get that body language, their mannerisms which often give you information about which the person truly is….
Ladyjustice can think of three scenarios in which she has encountered this phenomenon. And so far, it has worked out great! It’s pure, it’s real, and IT’S NOT BASED ON LOOKS!
The cleaning lady from Poland…. LJ has had the same once a month cleaning lady for 12 years. They met once in person…maybe twice at most… but that’s it… LJ has given her Christmas bonuses, occasional little souvenirs from a trip… They have spoken on the phone. However, if Ladyjustice had to pick her out of a “Law & Order“ line-up – forget it! The point is, it works…and it has nothing to do with her looks – no judgments!
The second situation occurs when, in the course of your work, you may communicate with a colleague in another state or country as part of your job. You discuss the weather, the work, maybe your family or a mutual hobby. But, you probably don’t know what they look like. Corporations are vastly cutting back on travel in favor of webinars and conference calls versus in-person meetings. [LJ has not as yet ventured into the world of Skype]. You have a phone friendship as it were…
The third scenario… and the one that is so unusual in LJ’s mind.. that it has worked so well for so long…. Is when she finally meets that trusted Public Relations Manager and another mentor! These are the people who are helping to mold the re-invention, that new career to “put her on the map”… that co-pilot who knows just about all there is... and maybe too much…as that’s just the way this writer is….. Ladyjustice is very open and all out there for others to see, regardless… This is probably typical in media relations, but Ladyjustice didn’t realize she’d be inheriting a new supportive family.
So…. I thank you from the bottom and top of my heart for all of your hard work on my behalf…. ‘Can’t wait to meet ‘cha….
Looks aside, of course! It’s truly a shame all of those little girls on YouTube can’t appreciate relationships without looking at LOOKS!
Here’s (Not) Lookin’ at cha!
www.donnagore.com Donna is also a Featured Columnist for Here Women Talk and the host of SHATTERED LIVES each Saturday at 5ET.