Let There Be Light— One Year Later

 By Pamela Chapman

As Delilah, our leader, advocate, and promoter sent out the blog schedule for “Time’s Up!” she reminded us that we had been creating posts for one year. Yes, Time’s Up! is celebrating its one-year anniversary. Congratulations!

I sat back in my writing chair. I thought of all the stories, all the experts and advocates who had put forth their effort and their voice. I also thought of all the individuals who’d been touched by Time’s Up! those who’d found courage, strength, and the will to go on whether they were fighting for a cause, changing legislature, the system or surviving a tragic event. For one year Time’s Up! has shed light onto a dark subject and provided hope.

It is my personal belief that once light is shed on a subject, no matter what that subject might be, it no longer holds any power. Where women once held their heads low in shame and shut their mouths due to fear, women now hold their heads high, march on Washington, meet with Congress and stand before judges and bring about great change. They are silenced no more. Let’s not forget the men who have joined the cause.

I look back over my Facebook page and in a year we have seen amazing tools, causes, and organizations emerge. Susan Murphy Milano’s Time’s Up! A Guide on How to Safely Leave an Abusive Relationship, Crime Wire Investigates Blog Talk Radio and E.S.T.E.A.M have emerged along with numerous humanitarian organizations bringing their light, love, and healing into our world. I AM Change and Beacons of Light fan pages will saturate the internet with so much love pedophiles, sex offenders, and abusers won’t be able to turn to the net to seek out the innocent and vulnerable.

Let there be light. I turned to the internet to find the “official” meaning for this word, light that is. There were many—all the physics stuff of course. However, here is what resonated for me. Light: spiritual awareness; an illumination. Something that provides information or clarification: to throw some light on the situation.  A state of awareness or understanding, especially as derived from a particular source: in the experience.

Times Up! advocates, supporters and subscribers keep up the great work. And may your light bring continued healing, and hope to a world that so desperately needs the change. Let there be light!


Pamela Chapman is the Founder of iAscend Programs and the host of "Get the Hell Out!" on BlogTalk Radio.

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Making a Mark in Life

By Cherry Simpson

Being a victim of crime leaves it’s mark on one’s life. Crime is on the nightly news, written about in books and on Blog Talk Radio. But you can’t walk into the Hallmark Store and find a card that says Sorry for your Rape, or Sympathy for the Murder of your Child.

Now-a-days almost nothing is taboo in conversation, except it seems the subject of being a victim of crime. Many victims hide as they are ashamed and are often blamed for the crime committed against them. 

The Crime Clock tells us it happens every 18 seconds, so we don’t have to look hard or very far to find a victim of crime, it does not discriminate, touching all ages, genders, creeds, and races. Whether it be murder, rape, assault, child or elder abuse, DV, or theft. Victim’s are in your church, your class at school, at work, in your neighborhood, even in your family.

When my daughter became a victim. I looked for someone - anyone who could understand and help. I sought help from a therapist a wonderful man whom we lovingly call Dr J, he helped us through many frightening and difficult times. With the ever growing crime statistics and the massive increase in human suffering Dr J will never be out of work.  He explained it’s difficult for those not effected by crime to have empathy and sympathy for victims. 

I’d like to see that change and I have often thought education to be the best way to do that. 

But how?

Earning High Marks

My husband, Larry Simpson, is a university professor, and he showed me a way. 

He teaches art and in one of his drawing classes he developed an assignment in which he had his students draw themselves and what their relationships are to the rest of their family. The drawings were large in size 4’ x 6’ and were the beginning of teaching more than just how to draw. 

In one drawing a young woman depicts a house which has a tree growing through it, like a weed, destroying all in it. The tree represents her alcoholic father. In each room is another family member, they are all being hurt by this monster. 

Another student was from Nigeria and he draws a hut, in which lies his entire family, all brutally murdered the student has drawn himself running away. He is the Nigerian silver metal winner of the Olympics. He says this is how he learned to run...for his life. 

Another woman from Iran also draws her family being killed and her new life in the US. 

There are numerous stories and drawings which tell the stories of murder, rape, child abuse, addiction, domestic violence, the list gets longer each semester. The class has grown in popularity, many students request over-rides. 

I have been very impressed by the stories my husband shares with me. Many of the students have thanked my husband for the opportunity to share their stories.  Some students, fortunate enough to not have been victimized, thank him for opening their eyes. 

He’s not only teaching them how to draw but how to share the pain and suffering. They have given each other the gift of empathy and sympathy for victim’s of crime. 

It’s art therapy - making a mark in this world in a special way.