By Jillian Maas Backman
As I sat and pondered my topic of discussion for this blog entry, I kept coming back to the idea of “energy of anger” and its advanced stage, the “energy of rage.”
How many of you hold onto the energy of anger, mindlessly exploiting this erratic behavior as a catalyst for getting ahead on your path to success? How many of you are in an ANGER RUT?—unwilling to consider the thought of relinquishing this detrimental pattern while fearing you will stagnate in your own inadequate resentments.
The energy of anger often masks itself behind other emotions and obscures our vision of the world around us. Dominating and relentless, it will ultimately suffocate all other emotional energies. It will subject you to a life of surface dwelling—an inability to commit to intimate connections with those around you. Instead, you shuffle though relationships like an old set of “hand-me-down playing cards” for the sole purpose of avoiding the possibility of feeling vulnerable. At some level, we all can relate to that. Living in a state of vulnerability is very risky business. You must open your heart and your soul to all sorts of subjective, painful passages. In a suspended state of anger, you may be able to avoid the human fall-out of uncontrollable experiences. But ask yourself this question; what blessed events are you missing because your veil of anger is holding you back?
I want to share a few thoughts on how you have the opportunity to shift that anger into a moldable paradigm of reality. From childhood on, we are taught to use this statement when we are unhappy with others: “I am angry with you.” If you remove two simple words from the statement, you’re essentially left with “I am Anger.” After years and years of repetition, one begins to accept the possibility that this is true. You are anger, and anger is you. You become one with the anger. In the old paradigm, human emotions such as anger, are characterized as personality traits. Unfortunately, the chances of reversing a characteristic trait are very rare. It takes years and years of commitment and accountability.
Moving into adulthood, I began to perceive human emotions as human conditions, which are curable. When you start accepting this truth, wonderful events will begin to occur. One can experience human emotions without being overtaken by them. This can be accomplished by “re-setting your emotional paradigm”.
Many teachers, including myself, encourage others to make decisions from a place of love, not fear, human- based emotion. It helps to give yourself permission to detach from the emotional components of your personality. Think of the process of detachment in terms of an archery target. The target is composed of concentric circles of different colors, rings inside of rings, all encircling the core center, which is always pictured in red. The red represents your soul center. This center is steadfast and grounded in the pure essence of love, peace, calm and balance, and most importantly, isolated from outside forces.
The outer rings represent human emotional conditions, accumulated over time as protective mechanism. These accumulated emotions can be either positive or negative. As a functional person, you have complete control over human conditional emotions. Are the emotional rings of your target negative, positive, or perhaps a mix of both?
It's all right to experience both positive and negative emotions. What is important is to remember that the soul, the center of the target, never wavers. It is the essence of who we are, even when we feeling a myriad of human emotions. By becoming aware of the separation of the “rings” we can develop more conscious control over our emotions.
In loving gratitude, Jillian.
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