A Cloak of Secrecy: The Face of a Pedophile.....(allegedly!)

By Gaetane Borders

I'll be honest with you...I am not a football kind of gal. So, up until a few days ago, I had no idea who the heck Jerry Sandusky was. All that changed, however, in the matter of a seconds when all the sexual abuse allegations against him surfaced! Now....he will never be forgotten. The most disturbing part of this story is not that he could have done this to all those young children. I am well aware of how prevalent this crime is. (The statistics do not lie.) I am disturbed...appalled...nauseated by the allegation that so many knew about this....AND DID NOTHING TO PROTECT THE CHILDREN! (Yes, I'm yelling because I am peeved!)

 I reviewed the infamous timeline that has been widely reported. In summary, it begins in 1994. In 2000, a Janitor allegedly sees Sandusky molesting a young boy. Again in 2002, a graduate assistant (Mike McQueary) allegedly witnessed Sandusky sodomizing a 10-yr-old in a locker room. A 2008 Grand Jury investigation found that 118 phone calls were made from Sandusky's phone to a victim's home after his mother reported that her son had been molested. However, it was not until October 5, 2011 that Sandusky is arrested for the alleged crimes. Siiiiiigggghhh!

The sad truth is that there are thousands of "Sandusky's" out there. However, don't be misguided because there are just as many "McQueary's" in the world as well!!!!! In fact, in order for a pedophile to victimize, they need a cloak of secrecy. Remember as well that kids often do not tell when they are being abused because the pedophile has brainwashed them into thinking that what they are doing is okay; or that no one will believe them; or that they would harm their loved ones. That is why I want each of you to know the warning signs to watch for.

Here are just a few:

•  Masturbating excessively. 
• Showing unusually aggressive behavior toward family members, friends, toys, and pets. 
• Complaining of pain while urinating or having a bowel movement.
•  Exhibiting symptoms of genital infections such as offensive odors, or symptoms of a sexually transmitted disease. 
• Beginning wetting the bed. 
• Experiencing a loss of appetite or other eating problems, including unexplained gagging. 
• Showing unusual fear of a certain place or location. 
• Developing frequent unexplained health problems. 
• Engaging in persistent sexual play with friends, toys or pets.
•  Regressing to behaviors too young for the stage of development they already achieved. 
• Initiating sophisticated sexual behaviors. 
• Indicating a sudden reluctance to be alone with a certain person. 
• Engaging in self-mutilations, such as sticking themselves with pins or cutting themselves. 
• Withdrawing from previously enjoyable activities, like school or school performance change. 
• Asking an unusual amount of questions about human sexuality. 

 I also want you to know what to do if you discover that your child has been abused. Here is a short video that offers 5 key things you should do:

Gaétane F. Borders is President of Peas In Their Pods, an organization that helps to spread awareness about missing children of color. She has dedicated her life to helping families and children, and is a noted child advocate. Gaétane often lends her expertise to various media outlets such as CBS, CNN, and FOX. In addition, she frequently contributes to magazines and newspapers.

Maintain the Fire!

By Jillian Maas Backman

In a time of reality TV, shock jock radio and bully commentators, how in the world has self-help gurus like Dr. Oz, Jillian Michaels, and now , Anthony Robbins been able to infiltrate closed media programming? What could be the driving force behind this cultural open-minded media phenomenon? Maybe I am going out on a limb but I believe we are primed, willing, and able to see ourselves as WINNERS again. Have we had enough of powerful people telling us we are stalling out with our perpetual potential? Are they really self help gurus or possibly intense dynamic peaceful warriors coming forth to gather the troops to exclaim once again the battle cry of our American spirit………”YES WE CAN.”

By the grace of NBC and Anthony Robbins for the next couple of weeks, we are being allowed free prime time access to the highly successful world of what I call the “Anthony Zone.” This self-help entertainment encouraging us to think positive, go for it and let nothing stand in the way of your own success. An over worked battle cry we have heard many times before, ever so logical, but nearly impossible to replicate in our daily life. We will be inspired by human triumphs over the saddest of challenges. We will cry together, laugh aloud together, and recite simple mantras in unison with the intent of igniting the fire of greatness within each one of us. However, what happens to this “spark” after our high priced cheerleader is no longer available? Like anyone who has attempted to start a fire in the forest – it is one thing to have a spark but it is something all together different to create a fire capable of burning all night long. How do you sustain the spark so that it can ignite a fire within? Robbins is a world -class public speaker capable of creating that spark. As a spectator in the television audience how can you capitalize on this once in a lifetime event? Here are my suggestions:

He will cover a lot of ground in several weeks of life coaching material. Listen with great intent to what he is saying. Focus on the information and take notes on the material that resonates with you. Ignore the rest. Work with your notes and break them down into workable pieces that you can implement as you go. Your understanding will come after the weeks of faithful work and repetition.

The goal here is sustainable changes inside and out. Anthony Robbins is a well-known figure in the world of life coaching but there are also exceptional life coaches in your local communities who are readily accessible to help you maintain the “fire” of your newfound course of action.

The simplest part of self-improvement is striking the spark for change. The most difficult part is maintaining the “fire.”

In loving gratitude, Jillian Maas Backman 

Soul Pieces: Intuitive Life Coaching

By Jillian Maas Backman

When I was asked to become a part of the contributing team of professionals to write for Time’s Up, I accepted under the auspices of scripting from my professional technical background in the field of intuitive life coaching, my degree is Psychology and the wellness field I have been associated with over 20 years.

Ahhh…..Life is funny that way – I set forth with pre-conceived expectations and upon arriving, destiny changes my play into something quite different - and in this case - greater than I anticipated. 

I can proudly say that I belong to a group of professionals that have blazed a new trail in life transformation: intuitive life coaching. By combining my natural, intuit sensing, life experiences and my degree in Psychology, I have been able to advise hundreds along the way, suggesting helpful life solutions to make their challenges less debilitating and filling their future with hope.

For many of you, the only information you have heard about our work in the field of abolishing domestic violence are “psychics in the corner, giving cryptic readings on where to find lost bodies left behind by monsters of evil.” We’re all as diverse in the field of intuitive science as the rest of you are in your chosen careers.

Let me demonstrate this point with my personal story: 

Soul Piece Number 1: Natural Intuit Sensing

The majority of my childhood was spent inside the context of a church building.  You see, my father is a Christian minister.  If I was not doing normal kid stuff, you would find me with the congregation, helping and playing in the midst of white light.  At a very young age, I can remember sensing all kinds of energy around me everywhere I went.  I really did not think much about it.  It was a part of me - separate from me - but yet, simultaneously, all of me. Each and every day I thank God source for allowing me to have such capabilities and to be able to share what is shown to me to heal others.

Soul Piece Number Two: Life Experiences

It really does not matter how much you think you know, or in my case, how much is shown to you that you should know.  There are human events we all go through simply because we must. My life, of course, is no exception.  Imagine being shown the way, and your human ego thinks it is stronger, wiser and can manipulate any situation. You stumble down the path, being forewarned by your strong intuit sensing, and you still make the choice to push forward…

My own involvement in a dating relationship had it roots planted firmly in the abusive garden of all varieties: emotional, mental, physical and spiritual.  Like anyone else, the embarrassment and shame were in the forefront of my story whenever I chose to re-live the terrifying moments in my mind.  I took the necessary steps to heal the wounds left behind and have never looked back since… until destiny came calling once again.

One of my regular clients came to me one day with a heavy burden and a request.  Her only daughter had been murdered several weeks prior to her coming to my office.  Law enforcement was having great difficulty in finding the body of her child and she asked if I could use my special talents to help locate and solve this case.  Immediately, images starting flying into my consciousness uncontrollably.  I did my best to help solve this horrific crime.   More importantly, I discovered something about myself through this experience: before this crucial event, it was my understanding that intuit sensing should be available for anyone at anytime for any circumstance.  It was at this moment I realized every intuitive gift has a higher purpose.  My heart and mind cannot handle the grass roots work in the field locating a lost loved one. I proudly use my intuitive talent on the second layer, to the best of my abilities, to heal the wounds and the holes left in people’s lives in the wake of their tragedy.

Soul Piece Number Three:  Release Judgments

Working with an intuitive life coach can be an incredible investment for the health and well-being of your self and your family, if you look at it this way:

1) Define your needs.  Are you at the beginning, desperately trying to locate a missing loved one; A survivor working through events from your past; Or a family member living with your own inner issues and seeking resolutions?

2) Identify an intuitive life coach that specializes in this field of expertise. Incredible work is being done all over the world by intuitives that specialize in missing person cases.  

 

3) Assess information given by an intuitive as you would any other professional - if you are ill, you go to several different physicians for their opinions - same thought applies here. When we are in crisis, we turn to several different sources to find answers. Rarely does anyone act upon just one lineage of thought. Think about it this way: intuitive information is one of your “tools” in your proverbial “toolbox of choices.”  In the end, it is solely your responsibility to select wise choices for your future.

4) Release judgments. I understand that it is a challenge for many of you to comprehend the origin from which my capacities come.  Believe me - for many years, I questioned them myself.  However, after running as fast as I could from who I was, realizing it was a big waste of time, then finally fully loving who and what I have become, I take great pride in serving others with my awakened faculties.     

So thank you for allowing me to share with you. Many blessings to you all, I look forward to growing with you.