tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6032288097291902285.post9164635568402178425..comments2024-03-19T02:43:07.969-04:00Comments on "Time's Up!": Venus: The Dark SideTime's Uphttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09908111385466002389noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6032288097291902285.post-72281601555576016092014-09-24T11:25:00.835-04:002014-09-24T11:25:00.835-04:00No one is going to use the perfect verbiage or des...No one is going to use the perfect verbiage or description for the world exactly as you see it, but I see and understand and even agree with Heidi's parallels, and they are VERY helpful. Perhaps the only way you may find full agreement is if you write such a novel yourself, and then you will be confronted with similar decent as yours now?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157201318936996410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6032288097291902285.post-70034599121199173732012-01-05T13:02:36.066-05:002012-01-05T13:02:36.066-05:00Thank you both for taking the time to share your t...Thank you both for taking the time to share your thoughts. It's always interesting to hear from people with different perspectives shaped by varied experiences.<br /><br />I want to clarify that the terminology you question is used by the authors of this book. Note that I questioned some terminology too. Being glad that this book was written is not a blanket endorsement of the authors. <br /><br />In some ways you are preaching to the choir. No one needs to convince me of the horrors men can inflict upon their female partners. I write as a survivor and have specialized in the study of police officer-involved domestic violence. I lost a friend to DV homicide. <br /><br />That said, I have also experienced the type of women that Sheppard and Cleary describe, and the cost has been tremendous. Power and control have factored heavily into these situations just like it did with male perpetrators. I've also had men dear to me affected by violent and unbalanced women. <br /><br />From my point of view, I simply can't agree with a sweeping generalization that domestic violence by men is always different from domestic violence by women. To me that point of view reinforces the myth that domestic violence by women is always less serious or threatening. If we're serious about ending domestic violence, then we need to eradicate all forms of it. It is more than just physical violence. <br /><br />As I pointed out in the article, men may be more physically aggressive and women may be more relationally aggressive. Of course there can be differences and that is reinforced by academic studies of the subject. But that doesn't mean it is always the case, and denying the deeds of women who do practice violence in any form minimizes their impact on victims.<br /><br />It is from challenging real-life experiences with both violent men and violent women that I write. Given how strongly I feel about defending victims and survivors I have no problem speaking out about the abuse perpetrated by both genders. The victims of both genders deserve protection and justice. <br /><br />Some may term it evil, some pathology, some bad choices, some selfishness, some human nature. However we choose to explain it, and you're right that I do touch on both the theological and psychological since the latter helps us understand what factors into the commission of evil, we shouldn't tolerate it. I'm sure that no matter what we think about this book or these authors, we can agree on that.Heidi Hiatthttp://wildninja.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6032288097291902285.post-32786565715483426822012-01-05T07:43:06.932-05:002012-01-05T07:43:06.932-05:00Thank you Jarl for this clarification.Thank you Jarl for this clarification.Lady Portiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15926578434258745634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6032288097291902285.post-83671014724538400942012-01-05T06:57:39.029-05:002012-01-05T06:57:39.029-05:00It is deeply unfortunate that Heidi Hiatt has trea...It is deeply unfortunate that Heidi Hiatt has treated this very serious subject in such a haughty, emotive, vulgar and demeaning manner. Phrases and terms such as "Al Qaeda in high heels and lipstick" and "...this kind of evil" are unhelpful in understanding the personalities of such females and the reasons for their behaviours. On the one hand Hiatt attributes such behaviour to psychological causes (sociopath) and yet on the other hand sees it as some kind of anti-religious position (evil) i.e. from a pseduo-scientific perspective and then from a theological perspective. Domestic violence as perpetrated by males is disctinctly different from domestic violence perpetrated by females and any comparison is an apples and pears comparison, and perhaps the clearest view of the behaviours of male and female psychopaths (a permanent neurological disorder) has been given in Butterworth's Family Law Journal. i.e. " “Women’s violence to male partners certainly does exist, but it tends to be very different from that of men towards their female partners; it is far less injurious and less likely to be motivated by attempts to dominate and terrorise the partner" The Law Commission has referred to one study which was significant in its account of what women did not do (but which constituted tactics frequently employed by violent men) - “No husband was threatened with a gun, or chased with knives, axes, broken bottles or by a car. Husbands were not kicked or stamped on, with steel-capped boots or heavy work boots. Strangling or choking were not used. No wife attempted suffocation with a pillow. Husbands were not locked out, confined to particular areas of the house, or isolated from friends. No wife has ever killed her husband inside Family Court premises or immediately following a Family Court ordered counselling session. Security is not routinely required to ensure wives do not behave violently inside Family Court premises”. Butterworth’s Family Law Journal Dec.2004.Jarl Ragnvaldnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6032288097291902285.post-39250498320739690962012-01-05T04:56:35.649-05:002012-01-05T04:56:35.649-05:00Thank you for this.
Mary Cleary- indeed- Navan Ir...Thank you for this.<br /><br />Mary Cleary- indeed- Navan Ireland.<br /><br />I am always fascinated to read what looks like truth, when the readers have no real idea who the author is and their past experiences and what has led them to write as they do. In Navan, the word bitch actually means a breeder- a woman breeder- oh yes, women in Ireland are seen as mere breeders, bitches who produce children for the next generation/workers. It mainly applied to rural areas in the past, but the energy of the word bitch is a mere breeder- not human.<br />It is amazing how female abusers- and there are some- my goodness do I know it- but immediately patriarchal society comes down on them like a ton of bricks but will find all kinds of excuses for males who abuse, batter, torture etc.<br />I speak from experience from DV court Navan, where women victims are labelled FEEBLE MINDED by judges- as all judges in Eire/Ireland are taught this little gem- even in 2011.<br />I feel all the world should know this hidden fact.<br /><br />With the label of feeble mindedness- throwback from Inquisition times- female victims of DV are deemed liars- even if they have witnesses and proof. On the other hand male victims are honoured - and some males also make up DV, knowing the system is clearly in their favour now. Solicitors who are honest will confirm all this.<br /><br />In conclusion- Patriarchy loves divide and rule and here is the classic example- pitting women against men and a woman doing it.<br /><br />I personally know male and female victims of DV- far more females than males.<br /><br />However, to fully understand we have to go back to Patriarchal bible story with Eve ill Eve and poor Adam.<br /><br />All is Eve's fault.<br /><br />Poor Adam was and is never expected to accept responsibility for his actions since that fatefull moment in the garden- all made up of course to demonise Eve's and excuse Adam's.<br /><br />DV courts in Navan Ireland and elsewhere need to be open to the public and reporters reporting the truth, unlike having Carol Coulter report as she is told.<br /><br />If I did not know Navan and Ireland like I do, I would be writing a different comment.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com