tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6032288097291902285.post4165086152191986670..comments2024-03-19T02:43:07.969-04:00Comments on "Time's Up!": "Dead Wives Club"Time's Uphttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09908111385466002389noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6032288097291902285.post-23913545388746789242010-09-17T10:13:48.480-04:002010-09-17T10:13:48.480-04:00So do I. However, even more important, we need to...So do I. However, even more important, we need to figure out what CAUSES this behaviour in men, and try to educate our sons.<br /><br />I think it's probably very easy to produce controlling sons. If Dad is controlling, the boys grow up thinking that's how it should be. If Mom is controlling, the boy grows up with no respect for either parent, and vows that no woman will ever control him as his mother controlled his father. the only solution seems to be to maintain shared control and shared parenting, not to mention mutual respect between parents.<br /><br />Every few months, on my blog (which is a personal one, with some writing about this sort of crime), I'll post some of the red flags I've seen. I get found by searches such as, "My boyfriend hit me. How can I get him to stop?"<br /><br />Education in How to Spot Red Flags and Trusting Your Instincts would certainly help, but it doesn't eliminate the problem. Something very basic we are doing is causing some boys (a lot of boys) to grow into men with this sense of entitlement. It could be as simple as failing to hammer home my mother's credo: "How would you feel if someone did that to you?" I heard that question every single time she saw, heard, or overheard me doing something hurtful to anyone or any pet. Teasing the cat, talking about my friends behind their backs, hitting anyone...she developed a sense of empathy in me, and the ability to walk a mile in another's shoes. I can usually see both sides of an argument, due to her. Are we not doing this any more?Ronnihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02062796442588373271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6032288097291902285.post-21469576263693746892010-09-17T09:40:09.777-04:002010-09-17T09:40:09.777-04:00Great article, very well said! I agree with the fi...Great article, very well said! I agree with the first comment too!Debihttp://www.stacyannpeterson.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6032288097291902285.post-19812144632310027512010-09-17T08:01:00.708-04:002010-09-17T08:01:00.708-04:00Thanks Susan. I agree we need that category design...Thanks Susan. I agree we need that category designation change to get the momentum going in the right direction. I agree with the first commentor as well. We need to educate the kids before they are dating.Kathy Longnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6032288097291902285.post-92199321016557707702010-09-17T01:30:49.234-04:002010-09-17T01:30:49.234-04:00Excellent article Susan. Thank You for this. Yes i...Excellent article Susan. Thank You for this. Yes it is frightening and seems to be a growing *trend* and one club I do not wish to be in. I have had more than my share of brutal relationships and violent marriages.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6032288097291902285.post-16399106240324487382010-09-17T01:21:10.343-04:002010-09-17T01:21:10.343-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6032288097291902285.post-4031613477991872852010-09-17T01:13:50.009-04:002010-09-17T01:13:50.009-04:00Very common, yet no one seems to want to hear it u...Very common, yet no one seems to want to hear it until it happens to them or someone they know...Very sad. We need "Intimate partner violence" education to become mandatory in U.S. Schools, to help young women understand the dynamics and signs of abusive men before become sexually involved. Also, Boys need to be equally taught what to look for in dangerous women as well. We need to stop reproducing with monsters in our society..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com